Dating is a nerve-wracking business, especially as it often involves putting yourself out there without being sure whether your interest is reciprocated or not. You might be looking for clues that a special someone feels the same way you do. Luckily, a lot of psychological research has come to prove that reading someone else's feelings is not as difficult as we might think. Conversation patterns and social cues can help you decipher the object of your affection's feelings and remove some of the mystery and nerves.
If it feels like she's reaching out even though there doesn't seem to be any pressing reason to do so, it probably means you're popping into her mind unexpectedly. If you share the same workplace and she keeps singling you out to ask for assistance or seek information over other similarly qualified colleagues, it could well mean that she is finding reasons to be around you.
Does it seem like she wants to find out as much as she can about you, from trivial things like your favorite type of pizza to the intimate details of your life? If she likes you, she will want to discover more and more, to find common ground or things to discuss. Quizzing you about every aspect of your childhood and your passing interests also suggests she's open to questions about her own life, too.
It will be clear when you speak to her that she's really been paying attention to things you've mentioned. A woman who's interested might repeat things that you've shared, even seemingly insignificant things like your favorite childhood food. She will be aware of what is happening in your life and will be considerate if, for instance, she knows you have a particularly busy day or just dealt with a tricky situation you brought up earlier.
When she is busy and only has limited time available, you will probably get most of her free time, during which you'll get her undivided attention. Chances are, she'll ignore her phone while you're together -- a great way to show you you're exactly where she wants to be. If she can't spend time with you, she's probably going to make sure you understand the situation, so you don't misinterpret busyness as disinterest.
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If there is never a lag in her responding to your messages and she tends to answer promptly, it's a very good sign that she places a high priority on your communications. We are generally more confident online than in real life, so regular and constant engagement with your messages, posts, and photos is glowing indicator of her affection.
She might not even notice it, but she will subconsciously adopt your mannerisms and begin to use turns of phrase that you often use or physical gestures that you often make. Imitation is a form of flattery, and experts agree that mirroring is one of the most obvious signs that someone likes you. It is usually not a deliberate thing but a result of someone paying very close attention to you and absorbing everything you do.
Someone that is very interested in you will find it hard to be casual when they're around you. If she laughs too much at something you've said that wasn't particularly funny, seems to have lost her stride, or shows signs of awkwardness, she might be overthinking how to impress you and therefore coming off a bit unnatural. This is common when you start to develop feelings for someone and want to get closer to them but are equally afraid of making mistakes.
Does she consciously position her body towards you? Psychologists agree that watching a woman's stance is a sure way of detecting her interest. She will face you with an open posture and uncrossed arms and legs. She may also stand taller, with her stomach pulled in and her shoulders back. A lot of these postures are subconscious and are an attempt to impress the onlooker with a proud and confident stature.
There are few signs of interest as meaningful as the use of the word ''we." If she speaks of the two of you as a unit rather than as two individuals, it's a pretty clear sign of the way she hopes things will go. This is a significant signal, but you need to pay close attention to catch this particular pronoun choice.
Not all women are self-conscious about the amount they eat, but if you notice your date picking at the food on her plate or shifting it around more than she is actually consuming it, it might suggest she is attracted to you. Sometimes, women eat less in front of men that they're attracted to because they are worried they will be judged as less attractive or desirable based on their display of appetite. Although the amount that she eats is probably of little interest to you, it can be a sign she likes you.